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How can couples reverse the buildup of resentment once they notice it?

11.06.2025 08:16

How can couples reverse the buildup of resentment once they notice it?

By resolving to listen with curiosity rather than defensiveness.

By deciding to stop with the criticism and the nagging and instead say thank you for everything you do for me. Thank you for loving me.

By giving up the notion that someone has to “win” or that anyone loses by saying “you are right”, “I am sorry”, or “I can do better.”

Why do men think I’m easy just by looking at me?

By keeping in mind it’s OK to have different opinions and different experiences, and they both matter in equal measure.

By learning to validate what the other is feeling. “I can absolutely see why you feel this way.”

By taking turns talking.

What baseball stories from the early days of the sport seem too bizarre to be true?

By wanting to truly understand each other, despite feeling unheard.

By internalizing that responding with kindness is strength, not weakness.